Happy New Year lovely readers!
How did you spend your New Year’s Eve? Mine was spent stuffing myself with tacos and playing Pictionary, because that’s how us nerds roll. I’m very proud to say I even saw the New Year in—something I don’t often do, because I like sleeping better than counting backwards.
So, now the new year is here, I thought I’d share with you my Goals for 2013. I’m calling them goals instead of resolutions, because resolutions seem to me to be trivial plans that you never keep, and only make so as not to feel guilty about eating too much over the holiday season. Goals, on the other hand, are specific aims that you’ve thought about, planned, and highly intend to achieve…or at least try very hard to achieve.
These are my Goals for 2013:
1. Be Happy with my Own Reflection
How many of you promise yourself at the start of each year that you’re going to lose weight, get in shape, and look fabulous come next Christmas? Yeah, me too. But not this year. I’ve realised that by focusing on simply trying to look hotter, I’m setting out to fail, because every time eat a chocolate, or see my flabby bits in the mirror I end up feeling useless and ugly for a few days afterwards.
This year, instead of making my waistline the sole target of my attack, I’m sticking it to my mind as well. Yes, I will be adjusting my diet (but not dieting) to remove those foods I can no longer digest, eat far too much of, or make me feel yuck. Yes, I will be exercising regularly—swimming, walking, taking up a dance class and maybe yoga. And yes, I will be monitoring my clothing size and celebrating heartily as the number drop from 18, to 16 and beyond.
But I’ll also be telling myself it’s okay to have a treat every now and then, as long as it’s a couple squares of chocolate, not a whole block. I’m going to remind myself that not everyone is built to be a size six, some people really are big boned—I am one of them. And I’m going to take compliments when they are given—say ‘thank you’ when someone says I look thinner, instead of groaning about how I don’t feel it.
What I’m not going to do is beat myself up for days like today, when I’m to sore/tired/miserable to eat well all day. I’m not going to punish myself for not exercising by going on a food binge because ‘I’ve ruined the day anyway’. Most importantly, I’m going to teach myself to look in the mirror and see the good things—my usually glossy hair, the definition my face will get as the puffiness disappears, my still-perky boobs. Because I’m not always going to be twenty-eight, I’m eventually going to have children, and I will get old, and when I do some of the good things will disappear. Instead of ignoring them in favour of the negatives, I’m going to enjoy them while they last. And wait patiently for more good things to appear as the year goes on and I get slimmer and more toned.
2. Be Grateful more Often
I’ve had a run of pretty miserable years—health problems, struggling to find a job, and dealing with some not-so-nice people and happenings. Sometimes I’ve let things get to me and become Little Miss Negative. Everything is bad, the world is against me, I want to curl up and die kind of negative. But I’m done being so pathetic.
Okay, so I’m not going to deny there will be days when I feel miserable, or moments when everything will get to me, but I am going to attempt to deal with them better. I’m going to start by reminding myself of the things I have to be grateful for, and this is a pretty decent list. I have so many wonderful people in my life, so what if sometimes a jerk wanders through? Yep, I’m pretty damn poor, but I don’t really want for anything I need, and my lack of cash is usually great inspiration for creative endeavours. I’m not one hundred percent healthy, but I can dress, feed, and take care of myself, and (most days) have enough energy to do something active with friends.
This year is going to be one giant pro/con list—for every con I mope about, I’m going to challenge myself to come up with a pro. I’m going to write about it from time to time, to remind myself that things really are pretty ok, even when they may look a little crap-like. And I’m going to say thank you, and mean it, as much as possible and to as many people as possible.
3. Get it together, Man
Okay, so I’m twenty-eight, broke, and living at home with my parents. This is so not where I was expecting to be right now. But hey, I have dream, so it’s not all bad. And I have ambition. And I have some serious family/friend support. I even have an awesome mentor.
So, basically, there’s no reason for me not to get my shit together this year, and make something of myself and my little business. In fact, this year, I’m going to get my business together so much, that by the end of it I might even be able to consider taking on an employee…if all goes well.
As for my life, there’s a three-year plan in place. I was going to make it a fiver, but I’m too impatient. The Plan: Move to the seaside and build a mini-empire. The action: by the end of this year, maybe I’ll still be living with my folks, but I’ll have business that is semi-successful, and a bank account that isn’t regularly in the red. I might even have a wardrobe full of clothes that don’t have holes in them…who knows?
So that’s my goals—nothing too dramatic, but enough to make this little chicks life a little more awesome.
What are your goals for 2013?